You’re used to getting on with things.

Work, family, responsibilities - you do what needs to be done. But lately, looking after your own health feels far more complicated than it ought to.

Responsibility does not scare you, but lots of rules do. You are perfectly capable of getting things done, yet when it comes to your own health, you feel as though you should have cracked it by now.

You know vegetables are good for you. You know moving your body matters. You have probably read the books, downloaded the apps, tried the plans and promised yourself that this time you really will stick to it.

And perhaps some of those things did work for a while. But they never truly fitted your life. Sooner or later, you ended up back where you started - only now with another layer of frustration and the quiet suspicion that you must be the problem.

Meanwhile, your body has changed. Your energy is less predictable. Weight seems to settle in places it never used to. Sleep, stress, cravings, mood and motivation all appear to be having conversations behind your back. The advice that once sounded simple now feels confusing, contradictory and, frankly, exhausting.

You really, really do not want to “do” another diet or punishing exercise regime because you love food, not restriction. You want to feel better, have more energy and feel confident in the choices you make - without turning your life into one long health project.

It is not you. The old advice was never designed around you.

Here is the part I want you to hear: you are not broken, lazy or lacking willpower.

For years, women have been handed the same basic instructions: eat less, move more, be more disciplined and try harder. But that advice rarely takes account of the hormonal, metabolic and lifestyle changes that happen after 40 - let alone your health history, preferences, responsibilities and actual life.

No wonder it can feel as though you are doing everything “right” and still getting nowhere.

You have not failed. You have simply been trying to follow a map that did not account for your changing body or the life you are living now.

What you need is not a stricter set of rules. You need to understand what is happening in your body, learn the foundations that genuinely support health after 40, and shape them around your own needs and circumstances.

Health should fit you - not the other way around.

What you are really looking for.

You are not asking for perfection. You would simply like to:

wake up with more energy and get through the afternoon without feeling as though someone has unplugged you;

understand why your body feels different now, rather than blaming yourself for it;

eat in a way that supports your health without fearing bread, pasta, restaurants or pudding;

stop every food decision becoming a committee meeting in your head;

know what to do when life gets busy, instead of declaring the whole week ruined;

feel calmer, clearer and more confident in your own choices; and

build an approach you can adjust as your life and body change - without starting over every Monday.

In other words, you want good health to feel more possible, more enjoyable and far less complicated.

Hello, I am Michelle

I am a health and life coach, author, lifelong food lover and enthusiastic life experimenter. I support women over 40 who are tired of being handed generic advice and want to build a healthier way of eating and living that works on their terms.

I understand the frustration of knowing something is not quite adding up.

I was diagnosed with PCOS - now being renamed PMOS - when I was trying for my second child. Nobody properly explained what it meant, so I assumed it was mainly about periods, ovulation and fertility. Years later, I began joining the dots between insulin resistance, weight, skin changes, menopause and the many occasions I had wondered why the usual advice did not seem to match my body.

I have also navigated breast cancer, menopause and the rather humbling experience of discovering that being knowledgeable about health does not make you immune to struggling with it yourself.

That experience has not made me interested in selling miracle answers. Quite the opposite. It has made me deeply committed to helping women understand the fuller picture - their biology, beliefs, habits, environment and real-life pressures - so they can make informed choices without fear, guilt or another rigid plan.

My own path has not been one neat transformation with a dramatic “after” photo. It has involved learning, adapting, getting things wrong, trying again and continuing to join the dots. But hey ho - I got there in the end. Or, more accurately, I am still getting there, because health is not a destination we arrive at and then smugly tick off the list.

A different way to approach your health

First, we make sense of what has changed in your body and why the old approaches no longer fit. Then we begin unpacking the rules, guilt and habits you have collected over the years. From there, you learn the foundations that matter most after 40 and shape them around your body, preferences and actual life. The aim is not to make you dependent on another plan, but to help you trust yourself enough to adjust when life inevitably changes.

Why my approach is different

My background brings together health coaching, psychology, behaviour and the wider social influences that shape how women think about food, their bodies and what they are “supposed” to do.

I hold a degree in Psychosocial Studies, a Level 5 Diploma in Health Coaching, and qualifications in Life Coaching, NLP, Deep State Repatterning and Counselling Theory and Practice. I am also the author of Beyond the School Gate: When Being a Mum Is Not Enough.

That combination matters because knowing what to eat is rarely the whole problem. We are influenced by habits, stress, identity, family, culture, past experiences, marketing, money, time and the impossible standards women are expected to meet. Handing you another meal plan without understanding the rest of your life would miss the point.

My role is not to diagnose, prescribe or replace your doctor or dietitian. It is to help you make sense of the information, understand your patterns and turn good intentions into realistic actions that fit your life.

A few things you should probably know about me

I love food. Properly love it. Cooking it, eating it, talking about it, trying new restaurants and buying cookbooks at a rate that may eventually require reinforced shelving.

I can rarely resist buying, borrowing or browsing through a cookbook, and one of my greatest culinary fears is being sentenced to a lifetime of beige food.

I was born in London and now live in Melbourne. I am happiest around good food, art, music, dogs, water, interesting places and people who are willing to have an honest conversation.

I believe health should add to your life, not shrink it. There should be room for nourishment and pleasure, vegetables and pasta, movement and rest, useful information and the occasional “sod it, I am having pudding” moment.

I am also thoroughly done with women being told that feeling exhausted, uncomfortable and unlike themselves is simply the price of getting older. Ageing brings changes, of course, but that does not mean you have to quietly put up with feeling rubbish.

If you like practical advice, honest conversations, dry humour and an approach that makes space for real food and real life, I think we will get along rather well.

Ready to find an approach that fits you?

If you are ready to stop collecting more rules and start building a way of looking after yourself that makes sense for your body and your life, take a look at Reclaim Your Way. (Coming late 2026)

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